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Taking care of a loved one in their golden years is something we all hope we’ll never have to face. In the back of our minds, we logically know that our parents will age and become less independent, but it still seems so un-natural. All of our lives, they are the ones that took care of us. They do everything from changing diapers, to walking to school, to cooking dinner and teaching us how to drive. The thought that they may need us in similar ways is a foreign concept. I think for most people it sneaks up gradually. At first we see the change and go through the three stages of denial, anger and finally acceptance. I’ve seen many families just struggle through the whole procedure and it can cause a great deal of stress. Estate planning and moving to a new facility or moving a parent into your home affects everyone and everyone has feelings and expectations. The best way I’ve seen for people to deal with this, is to hire an estate planner. Estate planners really strive to ensure that your parents are well taken care of. Not only that, but they do this every single day and have the expertise to guide everyone through the minefield of aging seniors. Some of the services of a good planner include selecting appropriate care, choosing attorney’s to deal with the estate, selecting services such as movers and organizers, talking with the senior in a respectful manor and easing them as best they can. Truthfully, it’s an emotional roller coaster no matter how you deal with moving a senior from independent to dependent. But you’ll handle the whole process a lot better if you’re surrounded by experts who care. From the beginning until the end, you'll be much more relaxed, approachable and available to put out an emergencies that come up along the way. This will also give your loved one a more peaceful transition. Worrying is contagious and so is remaining calm. If you think about it, isn't a peaceful transition for seniors what everyone wants in the first place? If you're unsure about the costs of hiring a planner, interview a few of them. There are also websites about estate planners that will give you much more detailed information. Isn't it nice to know you're not alone? It's really the same thing from when your parents had you. Perhaps they were unsure of what to do. Certainly they were afraid, but others came in to help. So you should not feel embarrassed or ashamed now that it's your turn to deal with something new and scary. Ask for help, there's plenty of it. You just really want to begin by getting a journal and keeping notes about everything you are doing. One of the key mistakes most people get into is that they try to do everything from memory. Well guess what, your memory will certainly fail you at key moments. Especially stressful times when you need to get a hold of someone right away and you can't recall the phone number. If you had it recorded, you could remain calm and simply retrieve the phone number. Writing down key points also de-clutters your mind. Why would you want all of that information floating around. Perhaps you have to keep appointments with touring independent care facilities, or meeting with various moving companies representatives or auctioneers to give you appraisals for antiques nobody in the family wants. If you don't write it down, you will forget and forgetting and not doing equals stress that you really don't need.
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Lorne W. MacInnes is a managing partner with Ferguson Moving and Storage. Ferguson Moving & Storage are Vancouver Movers that have been around since 1916. www.fergusonmoving.com
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